Dear heart, (the outcome of the war of words that was)

My dear reader if you haven’t read it yet, I’d recommend that you read my earlier post- dear heart in order to get where we are at.
I will give you a recup of how things ended. The heart won. Hence the body that was the owner ( you and i) went ahead despite the warnings, and got into a relationship. Now, many months down the line two possible and profound things may have happened. That the couple hit it off or simply broke it off. So i am going to look at both outcomes and either celebrate them or moarn them. Lets start with a success. And this is what i assume the letter between our minds and hearts would sound like. (Being a lady i will tackle this from a lady’s point of view. It doesn’t mean i have less insight, but it puts me at a better point of view).
Dear Heart,
It’s been long while since our last conversation. I must admit reading your mail was pretty disconcerting. I am however here to refute my scathing words that, for a moment back then seem to have really thrown you off balance. My dear, remember that, i said all that not to upset you, but rather to warn you of what seemingly for me was impending danger. I am humbled that you have made me finally eat my words. Happy to oblige you. You see, my plan wasn’t to anger you, rather i wanted to be sure that we landed on our feet this time round. We both know we hate it when we crawl back to our corner feeling all defeated. I especially hate having to let someone new in our lives afresh after an especially infamous breakup.
I am celebrating the fact that this venture has thus far been a wonderful journey for us. Clearly, your happiness has positively impacted on the life of our owner. Kudos. Secretly i hoped i was wrong and you were right. Thank goodness i was wrong. Look at how much our owner has improved! I noted that she’s become keen about her looks. She’s exercising, eating better. Her hair and nails look pristine. I wish we hadn’t wasted so much time arguing in the past. That aside. Did you know i am much more improved in that, she’s also taken a keen interest in her spiritual life? I enjoy the peace she enjoys lately. As if that is not enough, she has suddenly gone back to improving her intellect. She’s reading and doing more research.Oh thank you dear heart. You did a splendid job. Until the need comes along i think my job with you is done. Let me enjoy my holiday that is a lot of rest, positive thoughts and naturally, books. Ciao my friend until the next time. Yours always Mind.
Dear Mind,
Thank you for letting me be. Do you see how easy that was? I do not mean to gloat but, i told you so sweetie. Did you take notice that because of my choice they have decided to start a family? Obviously not immediately but they are working towards it. So yes i have done a good job. Everything else for me is detail. What’s important is that i am happy, i am content, i love someone and he loves me back. Isn’t it wonderful when we know someone love’s us? I am not gloating but i told you sweetie. So glad that you admitted that despite calling me stupid, you finally realise i can be of benefit to this body that is our owner. Who, just like you were quick to mention, has improved her life drastically. I am however, still praying that things go well for us all the way. Until next time. Consider the job done. I got things to do. Like getting pampered with all the kind and sweet words that he keeps showering on me. So i am very happy. Talk another time. Yours Heart.
Truth be told people, when one is in love, they are automatically happier. It has been scientifically proven that happier people perform better at work. They are also kinder to the people around them. So you see, when the heart makes good choices you are better of as an employee and as a boss.
When we are in love somehow we take better care of ourselves. Our skins glow. So if you are in love my friends, keep the fire burning. Sky high if you can, because you will be even more attractive the entire world. Remember people have a tendancy to agree with people they admire. You will most likely be more open to expanding your intellect, that puts you in a better position when interacting with the rest of the world. Wonderful, isn’t it?
Apart from looking and feeling good, taking better care of ourselves, improving our intellect and generally becoming better people, love has this ability to change our lives in the sense that we have someone we can trust with our own. The secrets and fears no longer belong to us alone, they can be shared. So you see, the burden is lessened.
The mind is a very reliable tool when choosing a mate. We never the less should be beware though, that the mind, has the tendancy to overanalyse situations. Therefore while listening to your mind sometimes trust the heart too, as it can take you on a most wonderful journey. Do not let the musings of the mind trip you. Let the heart do what it is best at. Loving and giving the best that a human being can give to another!

Actually lets not have coffee…………. here is my email Talk to me

People the first thing i need to mention is i have seriously struggled with the title of my story. Seems to me like my moose died. Anyway while i think of what  to call this post, i know what i want to say.  It’s a good thing i know what i feel.

The other day i was watching a wedding show. Yes i do watch wedding shows sometimes. Okay i rarely do. Okay it was my house-girl who was watching and i just happen to have been in the room. How that happened? You see, between a book and television, the book always wins. But somehow this wedding caught my attention. it had so many things going on such that i had to notice. Okay i will be honest, my house-girl kept uttering surprised remarks and talking to me i had to look. She liked the dresses, was amazed by the gazebos and the fact that, the maids changed a record three times into different gowns or something in that neighborhood.

Friends i am not going to tell you about the amazing gowns and the ten tiered cake. No. That doesn’t much interest me. What caught my attention  is the couple’s response to where they had met. Heheheheheheh yes that is what caught my attention.  Drums roll tada!!!!!Surprise people, they met on the internet.  I have this huge smile on my face, because i have friends who will be laughing off their seats because of that statement. You see, i have a bit of a problem meeting strangers. I do not know how to say hello or sometimes even how to say “i am fine thank you”. You see when a person walks straight up to me, i sort of recoil.  And i become a total bore. maybe i am a bore after all.

I would like us to seriously consider striking friendships over the internet. Lets look at it critically then maybe we shall have a better view or understanding of how people meet on the internet and strike lifelong friendships or even other deeper relationships like marriage. So let’s see if we can cover the basics.

THE PROFILE

Your profile matters a lot. This is your representative before the people you have an interest in approach you. Your profile also helps keep away the kind of people you are not interested in.  It’s wise to mention what your hobbies, like, interests are. This helps potential friends decide whether to click connect or not. It’s wise to mention exactly what it is you want. For instance, if you are religious and would feel offended if someone sent you a sexy message, it would be a good idea to mention it upfront that you are not interested in people who are in the habit of sending explicit messages.  And if you are into something like sex, i do not see why you shouldn’t mention it to the world. You see you save us a lot of trouble wondering what it is you are into or not. Most people lie a whole lot on their profiles. However there are some lies that maybe safe and others really dangerous for you. consider how much u want us to know and how much you do not want us to know. Feel free to be mellow or hardened depending on who you are. Nobody says we have to be the same. Try to be yourself. And when you can’t do not be surprised when others shock you in the future. just because You misled them.
THE VIRTUAL MEETING
I must admit, this is also a huddle sometimes. How one introduces themselves or responds to an introduction matters too. It’s good to keep in mind what our purpose/goal was at the beginning. so obviously if i am looking for a bible study group i will not sen a message and ask someone who has obviously stated they are religious if they want to go dancing. I will obviously look for people who have something in common with me. Therefore remember to read a profile before you either introduce yourself or respond to their greeting.  Because trust you me, that first virtual meeting will either break or make a relationship. Now I am not one to much advice on this one because i am very choosy and the tone of a greeting sometimes may invoke a nasty response from me.  So in this case i am preaching water and drinking wine. Anyway trust my word, its true. My habit is bad. Be respectful when you approach a person. It matters a lot. i do not have to explain that one too much. Should someone say they do not like you or refuse to respond to you or reject a friend request, come on its not the end of the world! Move on. These social networks have a large network of people who most likely have something in common with you. Do not find it in your place to spit nasty words at someone who honestly shouldn’t care if you are alive or dead.  Learn the ropes of approaching, how to respond and how to take rejection without getting bitter. You ought to know when you insist so much on being someones acquaintance they become afraid and suspicious of you.  and will definitely want to run away. I have done that quite a lot. A whole lot.
THE PHYSICAL MEETING
I trust i am not talking to bimbos here or dimwits. By the time you decide to meet someone you already know what it is you want with this person. I will not emphasis on the need for safety or anything like that. Because I expect that by the time you get to this point you have pretty much made up your mind if you trust or don’t trust this person.  However its always good to meet in a public place especially if you are jittery about the person.( Sorry Teddy…. come on how would I have known you would be like the brother I never had…. Tsk tsk.) Ensure you at least have something in common or you are going to have a very boring and painful experience. If you feel uncomfortable about the meeting you can take a break, go to the bathrooms and ask a friend to call you in five minutes and fake an emergency. There’s  no need to hurt someones feeling given you have this far. usually you will have learnt quite a bit about each other. other tactics that have worked for me are feigning a completely different you. This is how you do this: If this person knows you as a humble person, you can try being snobbish. this will get you a free ticket home and you will never see each other. If they know you as a smart person, please turn on the stupid. It works. Hehehehehe a while back i made such a connection, and we was becoming fast friends and finally decided to meet. Oh well I was disappointed. But rather than show it, I made sure the guy went home thinking how stupid is that girl. I talked too much about my ex’s, nothing about my future plans, current plans….. it was all bla bla bla. I know he went home thinking ‘wow that must be the most stupid girl I will ever know’. i have to laugh. That is exactly what i wanted.  Otherwise if you like the person and you gel well then I do not see why you wouldn’t enjoy yourself.
Those are the three important parts I know about meeting people on the internet. Now I bet you will want to know what my views are about it.

Friendships and many other relationships can be formed from anywhere. In the salon, at he pub, in church, at the library. You see anywhere where there’s people, one can strike a relationship. How we handle those relationships however is what makes a difference. I am not perfect. In fact I am far from perfect. I have made friends everywhere, including on the net. And what i know now, is it’s not about where you and i met, its how we carry this relationship and where we are taking it. That is what matters. I have met a whole bunches of people online. I haven’t necessarily met them face to face, but they make a difference. I have learnt that there are bad people and good people.  But do not be fooled that because he/she is behind a screen he/she is a pervert. Sometimes the people we live with are the worst. And that has nothing to do with where you met them. They could be our mothers, fathers, brothers or sisters. So before you jump on to me and tell me friendships I form on the internet or otherwise are superficial, check yourself. And remember a relationship is what you make it to be. But you have to be smart about it and make decisions you will not regret.

Zoro this one is for you.